Grace cried on lies in Zambia

THE children of Selina Banda, a victim of abuse who moved Zimbabwe’s First Lady, Grace Mugabe to tears during her recent visit to Zambia, have disputed claims that their father, Reverend Alick Malama abused their mother.

Peter Malama, first born of Ms Banda, said in a statement made available to the Zambia Daily Mail that he and his siblings were seeking to set the record on allegations by their mother that their father was an abusive husband.

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The Malama children also said contrary to their father being labelled a very cruel man who abused his wife, he was in fact the opposite of what he had been labelled.

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Peter said the family do not understand why their mother chose to tell lies against their father.

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“Though our father is not an angel, he is also not what the media has made him look like. In our home we never heard him insult mum.  “He gets upset when things are not going right but he has never raised a hand against mum, neither did we hear him insult mum,” the statement reads in part.

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According to the Malama children, their father fought hard to raise them up and loved their mother as far as they were concerned even though they did have differences just like any other home.

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Ms Banda’s children say they were aggrieved and also hurt to see her on television giving “testimony” of the abuse she suffered at the hands of the reverend.

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They say it was undignified for their mother to ask for assistance and to break down in front of Mrs Mugabe First Lady Dr Christine Kaseba.
“It is not dignifying for our mother to break down in front of the two first ladies and seek for assistance. What was the hurry about? The motive was totally wrong.

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“Let the nation know that we the Malama children have not failed and cannot fail to look after our own mother as has been painted by the YWCA,” the statement read in part.

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The Malama children said their mother had given birth to them and looked after them and they also wanted to look after her but she had been distanced from them by people who want to use her for their own glory and benefit.

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Peter insisted that they had asked their mother to live with them instead of looking like a destitute but she opted to be looked after by a pastor whom they deemed too young to help her.

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“It is sad that our mother’s counsellors chose to shame dad by using our mother. Dad has never denied helping mum. In private, he has advised and encouraged us to look after our mother and get closer to her. He also has offered to help her settle,” explained the Malama children.

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Before the case was made public, the Malama children said, their father had sent their mother a text message asking her to still remain friends with him and to get a quotation for him to start working on her house.

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Ms Banda was married for 33 years and only divorced two weeks ago. During Mrs Mugabe’s recent visit to YWCA Zambia, Ms Malama shared on national television how her husband hounded her from their home on several occasions and that the abuse she endured had also resulted in mental illness.
Ms Banda’s story was also featured in the newspapers. – Zambia Daily Mail